Modesty with Mary Lou

7:35 PM

This past semester one of my lovely RAs gathered our hall for a discussion on modesty. When discussing whether we were going to go, my beautiful roommate encouraged me to attend. I simply told her, "I am already modest. I know how to do it, so I don't need go."

#humiltycheck

I ended up going and it seriously changed my perspective on the subject.

All my previous reasoning for dressing modest floated around the idea that I didn't want to dress promiscuous because I didn't want people to think of me like that. I also knew that I didn't want to attract guys who just look at physical appearances. What I didn't realize, is that all guys think visually.

I really only saw modesty as a ME ME ME issue. It's all about me. But, after talking with my RA and other girls on the hall, I realized it's a bigger issue than just me. I am actually helping my brothers in Christ by not tempting them. Because even if we're not close to dating, guys are visual observers. Sometimes they can't help it, and it doesn't help if I don't do my part. (Not to say, it all the girl's job, but I think there's a balance.)

And guys, encourage us to be modest. We have enough influence from the media telling us to dress half naked. We need men to encourage better standards.

It really hit me when my friends shared discussions they had with their boyfriends and guy friends. Guys on campus who are striving to be men of God, struggle when they see girls dressing immodestly. I didn't want to be that girl to make him stumble.

So, what does this mean? I've always thought I was relatively modest. However, it wasn't until my  RA shared her experiences with immodesty checks, that I realized I need to be more intentional with the way I dress.

Since then, I've tried to careful. No more going out in leggings or yoga pants. (The guys said those were two of the worst!!) and of course no low cut tops, or short shorts.

My roommate made a good point. Modesty is more than what you wear. It's also how you carry yourself. Be careful with the crude jokes you laugh at, the outrageous flirting, and your lifestyle in general.

And remember not to let this bring on more insecurity. In a friend calls you out for being a little too immodest, it doesn't mean you're a total prostitot. Don't be so over conscious about it that you turn into a robot.

Above all, do everything to glorify God. Don't allow any part of you to distract from the Gospel.

Hearing what guys have say has a huge impact. Ask someone you're close enough with. Or, check out this video and others like it:

 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CJg-h6cnDrE

     
Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious.
1 Peter 3:3-4 (ESV)




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  2. Hey Gina!

    Posts like these need to get more attention! Modesty is a topic that can sometimes be overlooked or a lesson which is not taught.

    Having a boyfriend who is trying to be pure and be a man of God, this topic comes up a lot. Understanding a guys perspective on Modesty is very helpful as well.

    Great Job!

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