Kindly Telling Society: NO.

8:11 PM

I am currently a senior at a college that prides itself in a 97% career placement after college. (According to 2015 graduates). Raise your hand if you are in that 3% with no job prospects or plan. For those of you who can’t see me, I am raising mine right now.

Let’s be clear, it’s not because I’m academically challenged or even lazy. In fact, I started my senior year ahead of all the seniors rushing to career fairs. This girl started her senior year of college with a post-graduate job secured. (In a career path that I had been studying of all of college for!)

So then why am I currently in my mother’s house surrounded by boxes to unpack? Well, for the first time in my life I decided to stop doing things because society tells me to do it. For as long as I can remember I have been planning to go to college, grad school, have a career, get married, have kids, retire, and die. When I was a senior in high school I remember all this pressure to tell friends and family where I would be going to school and what I would be studying. And now, four years later nothing has changed. Everyone wants to know if I have a career or grad school lined up after college. No, just no.

Actually, I quit my job in my desired field. You think this is a bad idea? Take a number and get in line. Join the masses of people who think I am being foolish. 

I’ve decided to go work at a camp for the summer and then who knows what I will do after that? It’s a rhetorical question, but the reality is God knows.

I don’t do the whole mushy God has a wonderful plan for your life thing. (Don’t take Jeremiah 29:11 out of context. Read my old blog post here). I DO believe that God cares for his children. He wants what is best for us. So yes, in that way it is WONDERFUL. But God does not promise it will be easy and certainly not always the way we plan it.  

I don’t think God calls us to be lazy and expect him to just provide all the time. That’s not what I’m doing. Instead, I’m going to take the summer to spend time with him and not worry so much about tomorrow.  This does not mean everyone has to follow this way of thinking. If you have a job lined up and plans for an apartment, that's okay too. But I idolize my plans too much, so I’m taking a break from it. Eventually I will make a decision.

Here’s how I’ll do it. Say, I have choice A & choice B: are either out of line with Scripture? Either obviously sinful? From my finite knowledge, is there reason to believe either has the potential to glorify God? If the answers to these questions are No; No; Yes; then I am going to do whichever I want.

And you know what? If by the end of the summer I decide to move in with my parents, then I’m going to do that. The only thing stopping me from this way to save money on rent is the societal humiliation. But as we are learning here, society can put that in their juice box and suck it. 

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  1. I always believed that college should provide you a skill when you graduate until we had a discussion about your desire to major in religious studies. I heard your passion for the Lord loud and clear. I found myself telling you to go with your passion. I believe you made the correct decision for sure. It's obvious to me that you are trusting God for your future. Trusting God takes action to move forward and depending on Him. It doesn't make it easy. As a matter of fact it's tough. I feel strongly that taking the unit director position at camp is the right decision. You describe camp as being like a retreat, coming closer to God, no cellphone or internet service. Being a witness to what Christ did for us is surely more important than getting a job. I'm proud of you, Gina.


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Regina is a junior at a small college in the middle of nowhere. She dreams of moving to California, painting, writing letters, thrifting, and cuddling with a dog.

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